Category: General

When you have a sub in bondage, from the point you put the first restraint on to the removal of the last restraint, you are responsible for that person. It is a part of the trust that the sub puts in you. Make sure they are kept safe from injury when they cannot see or control their own actions. When I walk a bound boy down stairs, I will walk in front of them to ensure they will not fall. A more public setting, such as a bar, is a place you need to be extra careful. I’ve had boys in very heavy bondage in bars and events before. When they are on leash, sometimes others will try to grab the leash or their collars. It will happen, especially with more drunks around. While I am enjoying being there, my primary concern is with my boys.

Keep them safe and they will keep you happy!

Communication is very important in any bondage session. Proper communication can enhance the trust in a BDSM session and will allow the boy to enjoy the session more. How it is done should be worked out before a session begins. Any form of communication chosen should be clear and easily interpreted. Verbal communication should never be in the form of “Yeah” or “Sure”. “Yes SIR” and “No SIR” are much clearer and a more acceptable form of communication. For times when a boy is muzzled or gagged, they can of course no longer speak clearly. My preference is the “three loud grunts” method to communicate. When something is going wrong, they give me three loud grunts. Once I have heard them, I will then figure out what the problem is and correct it. Having them nod their head is a poor method as it is unclear. They may not be able to move their head in their bonds as well.

Safewords

Safewords are also a good idea, though I tend not to use them. A safeword is used as a STOP to a session. I feel that if a safeword is used, I’ve pushed the boy too far and too fast. In that case, I have done something wrong. A safeword should never be ignored regardless, as trust will break down quickly if they are. Make sure the boy picks his own word. He is likely to forget it if you picked it for him. There are other ways to communicate, but remember that whatever is chosen must be agreed upon before things start.